In a world where many of us are so fixated upon routine, unanticipated changed is often deemed a negative. We find ourselves living so comfortably with what has become second nature to us, associating ourselves with those we are familiar with, not necessarily with those we are destined to be with. We allow ourselves to settle for mediocrity because we fear losing our sense of normality on the journey to seeking more.
In life, we tolerate. We tolerate jobs that don’t allow us to thrive, relationships and friendships that no longer serve their purpose and we tolerate our everyday routines that are very rarely subject to change. We tolerate because tolerating is easier than facing the truth – the truth is; we are afraid to leave our comfort zones – we are afraid because we fear the unknown.
Reforming fractions of your life should direct you towards some form of success. There are two forms of success in this instance – success due to change and success due to realising the change was not for the greater good, enabling you to adjust your life accordingly until the greater good has been attained. Change is what encourages us to experience life to its full potential if we live without new challenges or adjustments, we’re not quite living life at all – we’d be simply just existing.
When we acknowledge that an aspect of our life needs to be changed, we deal with it in one of two ways – acting upon our instincts or by forming a mental block and pursuing denial. The fear of change can cause a mental paralysis within our minds convincing us to settle, continue and ignore our instincts. When we act upon our instincts, we are introduced to endless possibilities – possibilities we were blind to when change was not an option. Escaping our comfort zone is what we need to overcome the fear of transition.
We settle in relationships and settle for friendships that no longer fulfill us because we are afraid of losing stability, a sense of security and familiarity. There’s an immense difference between feeling secure and feeling content – when you come to terms and identify the difference in meaning of these words, your cue to go forth with change has most probably arrived. Never outstay your welcome, settling will never lead to progression.
If you desire a career change, don’t wait – action it. If you want to erase toxic friends, remove them. If you miss something, make the effort to gain it back. Our changes and adjustments form the lives we lead. Without change, we would have limited perspective.
By Hannah Goulding