BDSM | Short History + How to stay safe
Source: Deon Black
BDSM. An abbreviation of the words Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism.
Whilst above is the abbreviation, BDSM actually refers to a wide variety of erotic practices including; Roleplaying, Sadomasochism, Discipline, and other activities. The activities can be explored alone, in a duo, or group setting. With relationships varying from marriage to one-off, and many others.
A Short History of BDSM
BDSM has a long history, much longer than the abbreviation itself. The abbreviation is first though to have been used in 1991 on an Internet forum. But exploring these sexual practices themselves goes all the way back to Marquis de Sade, in 1785 he became notorious for publishing books on what is now known as BDSM.
In 1885, German psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing publishes Psychopathia Sexualis, which coins the terms “sadism” and “masochism” and describes sexual disorders in which acts of cruelty and bodily punishment become sexually pleasurable.
In 1889, The founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, analyzes sadomasochism as part of a number of disorders arising from the repression of the subconscious. Freud describes masochism as a perversion common in women and sadism as a perversion common in men, arising from pent-up violent energy.
And I could go on and on, BDSM has a long ranging history and whilst I began looking at this from the 1700s, you could easily go back to examine Ancient Greece or Egypt and examine their BDSM practices.
Now, with a proliferation of BDSM dating sites, it can be easy to fall into the practice. Most people are familiar with the term. What was once taboo is now out in the open. But just because something is easily accessible doesn’t mean you should rush into it.
The remainder of this post will be devoted to highlighting ways to keep yourself safe if you do decide to get interested in this activity. Not everyone is a sexual dominatrix! And even if you are, a little refreshment on the rules never hurts.
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Practice whilst sober
Under the intoxication of drugs and alcohol, it can become easy to be overconfident. What you don’t want to happen whilst in engaging in these activities is to do something wrong. Resulting in long-term physical injuries, or mentally scarring thoughts.
In order to best enjoy yourself, it would be wise to engage in these activities whilst sober.
Decide on a SafeWord
One or more conversations should take ace involving both you and you partner(s) involved deciding on a SafeWord. Another reason why this is wise, is that you are understanding whilst you think you may enjoy certain things that you actually may not in reality. Maturity is a good thing!
If someone doesn’t want to decide on a SafeWord, this can be an early red flag.
Take your time
Many of those involved in BDSM are on board for decades, so take your time. It may be easier to plan slowly rather than rush all grand ambitions.
Do the prep work
Many of the tasks and activities which you seeking to engage in include prep work, things which needs to be done before.
This may include anal training, buying restraints, putting up swings, douching. Thoroughly research so you experience no surprises when you come to engage in activity.
Hopefully this post will aid you in your future endeavours, take it slow, don’t rush things, proceed whilst sober and have a good time.
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